By from_me_to_you: How can I make my family understand looking for a job is not easy?
I recently graduated college, and normally I am not the sensitive kind, but lately, my family is really getting on my nerves about me being unemployed. The jokes are not funny when you are trying daily to find a job for yourself. Recent incident was when my mom asked me to help her with an online course that will require most of my day. Along with the constant calling of my name, cleaning after grown people and still trying to call, fax, and fill out internet applications, I told her that i won’t have time. She instantly got mad at me when there is a 26 year old undergrad college student living there as well. Now I know I should be grateful, but I have bust my as through school. It has only been two months since getting out of school and I don’t feel like my efforts should be considered as doing nothing. Was I wrong for telling my mom no? What would you do in this situation?
All disrespectful comments will be flagged. I don’t come on here to be insulted but for help and I am expect the same respect from other users. Thank you!

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Answer by Stacy P
this is a hard situation, i kind of know how you feel.
it is really hard to find a decent job with a good enough pay and it is hard to tell them that one thing i told my parents is im looking for a job that i like, cause if you dont like the job it is so hard to go to work.
you are going to go and it will be miserable.
you have to let them know you are trying your best to find something that fits you. and that it isnt easy of course you could go get a job at taco bell but then that will sooner or later not be good enough.
just let them know you are trying and that it does take time to find something decent.
hopefully that helped a little.
but with your mom just try to talk to her about it let her know you are not trying to be disrespectful but that you are trying to look for employment and that you may not have time to help her with that.

Answer by nitenurse
Register with a few agencies they can place you in different jobs that may or may not be suitable for you , but they seems to have all the leads on the jobs out there these days.

Answer by JRS
How about a part time job to help pay for bills until you find a career … good luck … family can be pushy sometimes … !

Answer by Clueless
I don’t think you were wrong in telling your mom that you are too busy. If it’s her that’s taking the course, why would she require you to be there all day long?

My advise to you, should anyone not understand about job searching, explain that when jobs become available it takes at least two weeks or so to get an interview and could take up to another two weeks to hear if you’ve been hired. It’s very time consuming filling out applications, mailing resumes, etc. so don’t let anyone make you feel that you aren’t trying.

Answer by feb21
No it wasnt wrong for you to say no i stuggle with the same problem I always feel guilty when i say no because even when i just dont have the time to do it. I think you should sit down and tell everyone you dont appreciate them making jokes because it only makes things harder on you. This may be a little to strong but I also think the people in your house hold are being very selfish. They know you are tring to find a job and they keep having you do peddly things. My mom gets mad when I say no, know because I never use to say no I would always do what she asked me to do, and only naturally from her she expects you to continue to do it this way. but as we get older we have our own lives to take care of and we dont have the same time we did before. I hope this helps.

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